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Sandra M Lopes
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  • Member Type: Silver Member
  • Location: Lisbon Lisboa, Portugal
  • Orientation: Straight (Genetic Male )
  • Listed As: Girl (M2F)
  • Looking For: Friends
  • Last Active: Aug 16th, 2019
  • Joined: Dec 17th, 2006

About Me

When I first wrote this profile â aeons ago! â I was full of certainties: I was a male-to-female crossdresser and 'nothing else'. Around 1995, I had been reading about the transgender spectrum, and I was scared of being anything else but 'merely a crossdresser'; I came out to my GG wife as a CD in early 2005 (yes, we're still together!).

During my teens, I was positively scared of exhibiting any "female" characteristics and terrified of being a freak, gay, or worse (at least it was "worse" for me). I worked very hard to improve on a more masculine image and grew a beard. In a sense, I felt that "playing a male role" was something required of me, and I had to work hard at being one. The advantage I had, of course, was being deeply attracted to anything female, and to this very day, I still have way more female friends than male ones, perhaps because I feel some affinity with their tastes and way of thinking.

My parents both died a few years ago â first my mother, leaving me to deal with a demented father (fortunately, not Alzheimer), who eventually also died a few years later. The shock of dealing with the deaths and all the suffering through my father's final years, plus the stress to complete my PhD, as well as so many unresolved gender issues, finally collapsed the house of cards I had built to protect my inner self. I was diagnosed with clinical major depression and anxiety â and still haven't recovered fully â which had several consequences â being unable to work possibly the worst. But another consequence was having therapists pushing me into introspection (easier for someone like me who has some training in Buddhist meditation), and to basically question everything, starting with all the assumptions I made about myself (my self!).

Today, unlike what I wrote here in the mid-1990s, I'm not so sure that I'm 'merely a crossdresser'. For many y

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  • Juliet Lewis
    Juliet Lewis 6/15/2019 03:41 Happy birthday, sweetie!
  • Ashley Houston
    Ashley Houston 6/15/2019 02:49 HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
  • Melanie Bowman
    Melanie Bowman 6/14/2019 22:32 Sandra Happy Birthday to my very very special and beautiful friend. That is Beauty that starts on the inside and flows all the way out for all to see. I hope that your day is filled with a lot of happiness and joy and the you have a lot of fun. Hugs Melanie
  • Xristine Fox
    Xristine Fox 6/15/2018 04:08 Happy Birthday To A Beautiful Lady ;-)
  • Dee
    Dee 6/15/2018 03:20 Happy Birthday Sandra
  • Ashley Houston
    Ashley Houston 6/15/2018 02:40 HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
  • Melanie Bowman
    Melanie Bowman 6/14/2018 22:51 Sandra Happy Birthday to a very very special and beautiful lady. That is Beauty that starts on the inside and flows all the way out for all to see. I hope that your day is filled with a lot of happiness and joy and the you have a lot of fun. Hugs Melanie

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